So Close

You’re in my arms

And all the world is calm

The music playing on for only two

So close together

And when I’m with you

So close to feeling alive

A life goes by

Romantic dreams will stop

So I bid mine goodbye and never knew

So close was waiting, waiting here with you

And now forever I know

All that I wanted to hold you

So close

So close to reaching that famous happy end

Almost believing this was not pretend

And now you’re beside me and look how far we’ve come

So far we are so close

How could I face the faceless days

If I should lose you now?

We’re so close

To reaching that famous happy end

And almost believing this was not pretend

Let’s go on dreaming for we know we are

So close

So close

And still so far

So close.....
And still so far.......

What I Resist, Persists

"Can miles truly separate you from friends.... If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?"
~Richard Bach


*AFFIRMATION*

What do I do with all the love I still have for YOU? I WILL allow it to be there. If I try to fight the love, try to get rid of it, and try to avoid it, I can pretty much guarantee that it is like trying to fight, get rid of and avoid the fact that sunlight exists.

If I feel love, then I WILL honor and acknowledge those feelings! They are letting ME know MY truth. Just by doing that alone will simultaneously bring ME into MY truth, and will stop the internal battle of MY ego and MY heart. What is so terrible about feeling love? Only what I believe can harm ME, and those beliefs must be uprooted so I can at least feel MY truth. Then, I WILL look at what is happening now. If I can, or wish to get in touch with the person I love, I WILL do so! If I know or have been asked to leave that person alone, then I WILL honor and respect what he asked of ME. This WILL be done with purity of motive, with love and respect for MYSELF and for YOU.

If I AM not able to be in contact with YOU, I WILL simply feel MY feelings, and create the best that I can out of them! The key here is to realize that it is okay to feel love for someone, however, it WILL be a “transparent” love with purity and zero “tactics” run by ego to push anything based on an agenda, an ego agenda. This “agenda’ includes denial of MY feelings. That is EGO in its prime.

Alternatively, I can write a book, a song or create something positive for others. Most importantly, I can love MYSELF for having the capacity to love! This is a GIFT in life, and it is one of the greatest gifts I can ever feel and express in any positive manner.

When I think of YOU, in MY mind, I wish YOU pure love, freely. When I AM giving that from MY heart, YOU will feel it. As long as it is pure, meaning that I truly wish the best for YOU, I WILL then be able to bring out the best I have within MYSELF. This can also help many other people who are feeling the same way. How do I know this? YOU might wonder, so I will give YOU the answer. I recently experienced all of this, and the pure love remains beneath it all. I now trust that there really IS a higher reason for everything that happens.

I now know that there is perfect orchestration in this universe and everything is unfolding for the highest good of all, every step of the way. As I trust I learned to stop fighting it all, because there are precious gifts within every circumstance – I had to first learn to look for them, instead of what MY ego used to either be attached to or avoid. I know that pure love never dies, and I had to stop trying to get rid of it. I had to ALLOW it and create the best that I can from it. At the same time, from the most pure place within, I do wish that very special person the greatest life any human being can ever have. I also wish this for YOU!


© Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

Facing My Past

"Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same."
~Flavia Weedn

*AFFIRMATION*

How do I stop thinking of the past and hope for a better future. MY mind is going to have thoughts and memories about MY past. I might hear a song that brings back certain memories. I might come across something or some place that reminds ME of the person I love. There are two key components to this.

The first one is allowing the thoughts to come to the surface instead of trying to get rid of them and block them out. They might trigger a lot of feelings and it is important that I acknowledge their existence. I can realize and learn a lot from what is coming into MY mind from the past. I can grow and learn from these past memories. I can see how much I have already grown, and I can cherish the times I had in the past for all of the good it did bring into MY life, even if some of those times were difficult. In this case, allow, acknowledge and come into MY truth about what MY thoughts and feelings are trying to get ME to see, feel and recognize. I can have wonderful realizations if I take this approach and it is entirely empowering!

The second disempowering aspect of thinking about the past is dwelling in it and wishing it were the same. This takes ME out of the now moment, when MY creativity, and creatively thinking by looking for a higher reason as to why I AM feeling this way will serve ME so much better.

I cannot re-do the past. It is behind ME. I can only go forward from this point one moment at a time. So if a past memory comes up, I WILL allow it to! What is it trying to tell ME? How do I really feel about it? I WILL come into MY truth. Then, I WILL go with what I AM getting. If YOU contact ME, be REAL! If YOU never contact ME again, I WILL trust and accept what is, and with a great amount of loving compassion for MYSELF, I WILL focus on what I can experience or create in this now moment.

The only time it will serve ME to think about the past is when I truly want to learn and grow from MY past experiences. Trying to bring back the past is like trying to bring back a breeze that passed by. But, I can always have a new breeze come MY way. It could be YOU, or a new person. It could be many experiences I came into this life to express. The greatest thing I can do with MY memories of the past is give them a lot of love, because they did serve ME well, especially if they were difficult. If I AM dwelling in a negative manner, then this is hindering MY growth. I WILL ask MYSELF what I have learned, and what means the most to ME. Above all, I WILL trust that I would not be where I AM today if those experiences were not in MY life, and I AM not meant to keep re-living the events of MY past. I AM here to create new, positive and life enriching ones. Can it be with YOU? That is up to each person’s free will and choice. I can trust one thing, however, and that is that if it is meant to be for MY highest good, it will be, no matter which way it turns out.

I WILL view the past with love and appreciation. Then I can take all of the growth I have made and create, live, be and express so much more.

Hoping for the future is a complete waste of time. Why? Because it is detracting from this now moment when all creation exists! I WILL Pull MYSELF into NOW, and I WILL feel guided from within. Life will begin to flow smoothly, effortlessly, and everything will fall into place for MY highest good. If I could only realize how profound this now moment is, when events happen that I would call a miracle, I will cease to live projecting into the future, and I WILL create everything from MY heart NOW. There is nothing more pure and positive, and it all comes from MY heart. I WILL TRUST that everything is unfolding according to MY highest good. As I begin to get centered in this now moment, I WILL go with what MY inner guidance and gut feelings is telling ME! I WILL ALWAYS follow MY inner guidance. THAT is what will create MY “future” and it will result in the greatest life I could possibly have.


© Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

Reconciliation

"The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected."
~Nicholas Sparks


*AFFIRMATION*

Why some people keep returning to each other after separation. There is only one thing in this universe that can never be destroyed and this is pure love. When two people deeply love each other and have repeated separation this is a clear indication that each person has growing to do, or they, just like everyone else on earth, would not be in this life to begin with.

When two people are together and they trigger each of their deepest growth issues, deep rooted feelings will naturally come to the surface. Then the ego takes its typical “fight or flight” position. Some people separate when what they are feeling is triggering so much inside, that they just want to get away. In this case, the ego has won its temporary battle. However, as time passes, and each person has solitude to so some deep soul searching, they discover that they did, in fact, have some growing to do on the personal level. They even realize that the other person was a wonderful catalyst for this growth. The love comes back to the surface, and they somehow get back in touch with each other because the love truly never died!

Some people call this a “love/hate, can’t live with him/her, can live without him/her” relationship. Personally, I do not agree with this view, as it is giving a surface excuse that labels something far deeper and wiser. I would call it profound love, growth and realization that has phases of togetherness and separation when needed for the growth of each person.

Relationships that are this deep have clearly come into our lives for higher reasons, and they are all related to growth. First for self, possibly to learn how to be authentic in a relationship, and ultimately it serves a positive purpose for many others.

If you find that you have been apart many times, and have returned to each other many times, I would venture to say that you have each grown tremendously as a result. Would you agree with this view? This is “why”. It is all for growth. The other reason “why” is because pure love never dies, ever. So when you are together love and treasure every moment. When you are apart, love yourself while you bring your greatest contributions into this world. Under all circumstances give yourself and the other person pure, transparent love, while you trust that everything really is in divine order, and working out for each of your highest good.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

To Grow to Heal to Transform To Bloom

“No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other's worth.”
~Robert Southey

*AFFIRMATION*

What if we still love someone and we are not together anymore and that we are moving far away from each other. The greatest thing I can do is go into MY deepest heart, that place where pure unconditional love resides, and wish YOU the greatest life that any human being can possibly have. I AM able, I can let YOU know that I love YOU, and that YOU can always call ME whenever YOU want to. Then, with pure, transparent love, I WILL view YOU the way I would view a butterfly, and allow YOU to fly away freely, while I simultaneously send YOU MY love and purest good wishes.

Sometimes WE need to move away to have a fresh start. Sometimes WE need to separate from the past so WE can grow, heal, transform and bloom into OUR highest expression of self in this lifetime. Sometimes WE need to re-create an entire new life. If I truly and genuinely love YOU, I have to realize that it requires a great amount of self love to be able to allow another to go away so that I do not feel tortured inside, but that I WILL feel love and inner peace.

I WILL begin to view MY love as the gift that it is, and view MYSELF with tremendous pure love, without condition. This means that there is no condition that validates how lovable or worthy I AM. And, this includes whether or not YOU are in MY life.

It is vital that I realize that I AM not saying goodbye to the love I feel, I AM merely saying goodbye to the old circumstances. If WE have not been together, chances are great that each of US needed to grow and perhaps could not do this while remaining physically together.

I WILL view this new circumstance as a positive experience for greater self love, for each of US! I WILL see the good in it. It is there, and if I look for it, I WILL find it! Under all circumstances, I WILL find the love in the situation, and how this is serving as a positive catalyst in each of OUR lives. This will bring ME into a great deal of trust, and the pain will be replaced by unconditionally loving acceptance. This in turn leads to a great deal of inner peace.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

We Only Part To Meet Again

"Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you're close in heart."
~Kay Knudsen


*AFFIRMATION*

How do I say goodbye when I don't want to? When a circumstance happens that MY personality might not like, it is imperative that I stop fighting what the universe is showing ME, and start to look for the blessing in disguise, as well as the higher reason behind it.

When WE truly learn to go with the flow, in the moment, WE will gain a great deal of trust. What WE will ultimately trust is that it is happening for OUR highest good and for the highest good for YOU. WE might not see the higher reason at the current time, but WE definitely will in hindsight.

I do not own YOU. YOU can do whatever YOU want to do. How could I not say goodbye if that is being asked of ME? This is the root of desirous attachment. MY desires might be too attached to YOU in a way that is not healthy. The only way to release this, as with anything else, is with tremendous love and compassion for MYSELF and for YOU.

I WILL look at what good can possibly come out of the situation. I WILL look for what might very well be for each of MY highest good. I WILL replace “want” with “prefer”. I “prefer” to trust that there are higher reasons behind this situation and what I “want” might not be possible at this time. It might be possible in the future, or never. I WILL release that grip with a flow of unconditional love. This will serve YOU & I far better than holding on for dear life. As a matter of fact, a “dear life” is what I WILL ultimately “want” both for YOU & I. I WILL allow it to be what it is. As soon as I begin to “allow” then I WILL begin to feel inner peace, and the pain will vanish.

We only part to meet again.
~John Gay

i love you, just

© Copyright by Barbara Rose, Ph.D. All rights reserved.