Reconciliation

"The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected."
~Nicholas Sparks


*AFFIRMATION*

Why some people keep returning to each other after separation. There is only one thing in this universe that can never be destroyed and this is pure love. When two people deeply love each other and have repeated separation this is a clear indication that each person has growing to do, or they, just like everyone else on earth, would not be in this life to begin with.

When two people are together and they trigger each of their deepest growth issues, deep rooted feelings will naturally come to the surface. Then the ego takes its typical “fight or flight” position. Some people separate when what they are feeling is triggering so much inside, that they just want to get away. In this case, the ego has won its temporary battle. However, as time passes, and each person has solitude to so some deep soul searching, they discover that they did, in fact, have some growing to do on the personal level. They even realize that the other person was a wonderful catalyst for this growth. The love comes back to the surface, and they somehow get back in touch with each other because the love truly never died!

Some people call this a “love/hate, can’t live with him/her, can live without him/her” relationship. Personally, I do not agree with this view, as it is giving a surface excuse that labels something far deeper and wiser. I would call it profound love, growth and realization that has phases of togetherness and separation when needed for the growth of each person.

Relationships that are this deep have clearly come into our lives for higher reasons, and they are all related to growth. First for self, possibly to learn how to be authentic in a relationship, and ultimately it serves a positive purpose for many others.

If you find that you have been apart many times, and have returned to each other many times, I would venture to say that you have each grown tremendously as a result. Would you agree with this view? This is “why”. It is all for growth. The other reason “why” is because pure love never dies, ever. So when you are together love and treasure every moment. When you are apart, love yourself while you bring your greatest contributions into this world. Under all circumstances give yourself and the other person pure, transparent love, while you trust that everything really is in divine order, and working out for each of your highest good.

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