Relationship Secrets

My sister Brenda always sends me forwarded emails. Below is one of the emails she sent. Usually I don't read any of it. It just click ALL and DELETE. But this one says, "RELATIONSHIP SECRETS". Coming from my sister, I thought I should give it a read. She has a very happy marriage, having a loving husband, an adorable baby boy and a devoted girl who just turned 7 this year. Well, after reading it, I felt more positive and alive!
Ready to fight the roller coaster of relationships again!

ANNIVERSARIES 

 Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is a triumph.

APPRECIATION

Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

BEST FRIENDS

Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.

BOND

Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone with each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

COMPLIMENTS

Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.

DATE

Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction

DIFFERENCES

Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.

FIGHTS

Fight with the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were with your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it and that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

FLAWS

Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

FUN

Have fun together! This means keeping the fun and spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly. Being able to make each other laugh and see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle and opposing viewpoints.

GOALS

Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

GRUDGES

Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.

KEEPING IT HOT

Keep it hot by traveling to different places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

HONESTY

Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

KNOW EACH OTHER

Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!

HUG

A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

IDENTITY

Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love with you. Have separate interest and activities to keep your individual and to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

INDEPENDENCE

Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.

IN-LAWS

Make rooms for the in-laws.

INTENTIONS

Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst.

ISSUES

Speak up about the awkward stuff now, like money and sex. The earlier, the better.

LISTEN

Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

LOOK GOOD

Mind your appearance! Stay fit and healthy for each other.

LOVE

It all boils down to your love, chemistry and respect for each other.

MEMORIES

Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.

MIND READING

No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.

NEEDS

Be good to yourself, then be good to your partner. That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive and sensitive to each other's needs, physically and emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.

PRIORITIES

If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!

SPACE

Give each other space. Have your boy's night out. If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.

SORRY

Say sorry when you're wrong.

SURPRISES

No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.

TEAMWORK

Think for two and always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.

SUPPORT

Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions and create new ones together. Two heads are better than one.

TALK

Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast and its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it and have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life.

Nicky and Oli, Fraternal Twins

*Lovers From Past Lives*

*Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.*

:)